...the true art of letting go...

...the true art of letting go... "at 1 point of my life I bcame afraid to love. Bcoz evrytym I fell in love, I got hurt. I thought mybe that's why it's called "falling" in love. I would giv my all, loving deeply & wholeheartedly. It would be a truly emotional, extremely euphoric experience. I would dream about d object of my affection all day and all night, imagining good tyms 2gdr, thinking of wht I cn do or give him to show how much I cared. Then somehow something would go wrong and my whole world would crash. Disappointment. Resentment. Anger. Pain. Y? Cn we nt love without pain? Is disappointment really a price to pay for all the happiness we feel wen we're in love? Should we blindly accept that becoz we love we get hurt? It was only after many sleepless nights and alot of tears that I discovered that I can love without getting hurt. I finally understood that unconditional love was the answer. Love is one of d most powerful forces in the universe. It is the fire that burns inside, the essence of being (lalim nun.). Love is the source of all our comfort and contentment. It is a precious gift that defines our purpose in life. If we keep in mind that we can indeed preserve its true meaning, we can love to the fullest and be happy the rest of our lives. Accept tht people express love in different ways. How do U express ur love? U always say "I love you", u kiss and embrace hm evry chance u get, u never forget ur anniversaries & always text/call him if possible. How does HE express his love? He rarely says "I love you", he seldom kisses you, he forgets text or call you, and he doesn't even try spent tym with u . But he works overtime, helps you with the dishes,always bring ur favorite pasalubong , and calls you "Sweetheart". He probably loves you as much as you love him, he just shows it differently. If you can accept that difference then you can have a healthier perspective of your relationship. Derive happiness from giving love. When you love, do it because you want to. There is indescribable joy in loving. Just give it. And cherish the satisfaction in hving given some1 something of urself. It's like giving a gift. Whether it is appreciated or not, find joy in simply giving. Love without expecting anything in return. Now this is where pain comes in: when you demand something in return for the love you give. You are actually setting yourself up for disappointment because love cannot always be reciprocal. Love between two people can never be of the same intensity at the same time and place. No matter how much your partner loves you, she will never be able to fill all your needs all the time. And you are worst off if you believe you should love only when you are sure to receive equal love in return. Sad to say, you will be waiting in misery forever. Love now. The past is gone and the future is just a dream. All of yesterday's aches and pains, even the joys and laughter, are mere memories. Let them go. And your fantasies and worries? They may never come. So why dwell on them? Live now. Give love now. Do it now and enjoy the moment. That is the secret of inner contentment. Throw away those destructive habits. When u insist upon urself tht u always hv to be in control, tht u always hv to be right, tht others must always please u, u mold unreasonable expectations of urself and the 1 u love. Loving relationships are flexible, dynamic, and evolving. Give room for change and interaction. Allow for new behavior and learning experiences. When we welcome these into our lives, we open ourselves up to love and affection rather than anger and frustration. Yes, you will say that unconditional love is easier said than done. Especially when we hv always beliv tht love is give and take. Try believing tht love is simply giving. They say Give until it hurts. Lets say Love until it hurts no more..."